In his commentary on the PBS News Hour last night, New York Times columnist David Brooks made a compelling observation about the state of our national nervous system. The topic was the increasingly bitter and rancorous political divide thatβs finding expression in conspiracy theories and a growing sense of threat and menace from βthe other side.β People, he said, are scared socially and economically.
βThe problem with all the paranoia and the conspiracy theories is that you canβt talk people of out it. The psychological research is super clear on this: if you try to fact-check people out of their incorrect βfactsβ you only entrench them in their beliefs. You canβt talk people out of an emotional state.β One possible way forward, he said, is for people in what he termed the βexpert class,β who tend to live in metropolitan areas, to have more contact with those who live in rural areas. Thereβs something disturbingly stereotypical about his comment, but it also contains an accuracy that echoes in my experience. Thereβs nothing like contact to dismantle a barrier.
Later last night I attended a virtual concert by a friend, Peter Mayer. He ended by saying: βI close all our concerts with this request: This week, do something good and kind and loving for someone you canβt stand. Itβs the only way weβre going to make progress and find healing.β
I think the intersection of Davidβs and Peterβs comments is profoundly true. And burdensome. And frightening. And life-giving. You donβt need a keen eye for detail to notice that the desire for dialogue isnβt universal. The wounds from this last election are too fresh. So if thereβs a path ahead itβs going to be blazed by those of us who are willing to venture out and risk.
Thatβs why Iβm grateful for this group of like-hearted people who are committed to weaving a better and stronger fabric of life together. Iβm convinced there are brighter days ahead. As we create them, itβs reassuring to know kindred souls are in my corner. Iβm happy to be in yours.
βThe problem with all the paranoia and the conspiracy theories is that you canβt talk people of out it. The psychological research is super clear on this: if you try to fact-check people out of their incorrect βfactsβ you only entrench them in their beliefs. You canβt talk people out of an emotional state.β One possible way forward, he said, is for people in what he termed the βexpert class,β who tend to live in metropolitan areas, to have more contact with those who live in rural areas. Thereβs something disturbingly stereotypical about his comment, but it also contains an accuracy that echoes in my experience. Thereβs nothing like contact to dismantle a barrier.
Later last night I attended a virtual concert by a friend, Peter Mayer. He ended by saying: βI close all our concerts with this request: This week, do something good and kind and loving for someone you canβt stand. Itβs the only way weβre going to make progress and find healing.β
I think the intersection of Davidβs and Peterβs comments is profoundly true. And burdensome. And frightening. And life-giving. You donβt need a keen eye for detail to notice that the desire for dialogue isnβt universal. The wounds from this last election are too fresh. So if thereβs a path ahead itβs going to be blazed by those of us who are willing to venture out and risk.
Thatβs why Iβm grateful for this group of like-hearted people who are committed to weaving a better and stronger fabric of life together. Iβm convinced there are brighter days ahead. As we create them, itβs reassuring to know kindred souls are in my corner. Iβm happy to be in yours.
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